Understanding the mirror effect....

It is said that what you give is what you get. Most of us believe in it ... i know i do. But when something goes really wrong... it makes me wonder what have i done to deserve this or why did he/she have to behave this way? i was nothin but good to him/her.

Used to discuss this with mum. She told me one thing if u have't done anything wrong ... nothing bad would happen to you. If its not my fault it should't bother me. But it is not easy.If someone is being unreasonably evil...let them be... they'll get it back. its the law... nature's law. So... I would just try to get over it by ignoring and moving on with life.

It took me a couple of months to truly understand what mum said cos i could see it... bright and clear... People who hurt me were friendless, totally betrayed..and the irony is they would come to me for support.I should be happy seeing them like this... should't i...? no i dont... probably that not there in by upbringing... but i dont feel sad for them either.

But why did i have to go thru all the bitterness? those days were horrible...

I thought a lot about it... the answer was very simple. If it werent for those horrible times i would't have valued my current friends. It was God's indication to stay away... or rather to protect me from more pain.

Right now i have a wonderful set of friends, friends who would do anythin to see if i am ok, who truely care for me...and friends for whom i would do anything.

Some incidents leave a very deep impact on us. It makes us see people in two distinct colours... one on ur side and one on the other. I was fortunate to have been thru one.

Their care and affection made me taste a different flavour to friendship. I was soo moved...

Could't thank god enough for blessing me with such amazing friends...

Why am i writing this? might come across as a show off... ''oh look... i have a wonderful set of friends... oh they are so lovely...blah''.... I always believed that if you have something nice.. it shows .. u need not make any efforts. BUT of late i realised that all i am doin is 'whining' abt how bad pple around me are ... is leaving a very very wrong impression on some people that i am friendless.

If i have gr8 people around me... I might as well show off...

One fine day i realised...

Here are some things i realised one fine day...
One fine day i realised that person was't worth it...
One fine day i realised someone really cared for me...someone i never expected!
One fine day i realised i was in love(/had a crush.. watever!)
One fine day i realised i was nothin but a joke for them..
One fine day i realised i had the credibility...
One fine day i realised i was worth much more...
One fine day i realised i deserved it..
One fine day i realised i could make someone's day...
One fine day i realised i was a good student...
One fine day i realised i was smarter and better than 'them'
One fine day i realised life is beautiful..
One fine day i realised i can make someone laugh..
One fine day i realised i can hurt someone..
One fine day i realised i have the right to have my say...

Till a few days back i had some additions...
One fine day i realised maybe i should think about it..
One fine day i realised maybe i am being too judgemental..
One fine day i realised maybe you are the only one who understands me..
One fine day i realised maybe you are the only one for me...

Today i had some more additions to this list thanks to you...
One fine day i realised you dont know me at all...
One fine day i realised i was just a parasite for you..
One fine day i realised i was nothing more than the subject for ur blogs...
One fine day i realised you never respected me...
One fine day i realised our friendship that i valued the most was a lie...
One fine day i realised it was all fake as you confessed before...
One fine day i realised (yes) u are a mutant... with a superpower... keep guessing wat!

Today i thank you for bursting the bubble... and rewriting the reality for me... thanks...

grapes are sooo sour....i guess... ya... it must be...

Note to all guys:
Gifts are not the tools to get in her pants. She is probably accepting them as a good gesture... but i kno pple who have thrown it back at the guys face ...if she has't ,thank your stars for that.
Please pick up the cues that say NO.... if u dont know it...LEARN it... MASTER it.... instead of walking around her like a loser. For all u kno she is just tolerating you.
Money is important...yes, it is true BUT not the only thing important so dont use it as a weapon either ....you might end up attracting the wrong type. Women(genuine ones) look at money only as a security.
If u feel u r not worth her... maybe u r not... accept it... get over it... instead of tryin to get back at her using silly things. Understand.... at the end of the day.. u r just being low... and u kno it.
If u ignore the above, u'll only end up sayin 'oh she is not worth it...', 'she is SELFISH', 'She is greedy... a human leech', 'she is probably using guys for her ADVANTAGE'....

Stop sulking loser... u deserve it!

Loser

Yes.. I do think u have an ‘attitude’… an attitude of a loser.
I having been taking it for too long thinking some action of mine has hurt you. Have tried confronting but got the same diplomatic answer of yours , ’no dear… of course not!’.

So u find me programmed, artificial… whatever…. how does that matter to you.. how does that even remotely affect you to treat me or any1 the way you do. Don’t try to rationalize your behaviour saying ‘oh ! its just temporary…(or) or I am this way to survive in this place’…BULLSHIT! And you have the audacity to call me fake?!@#$ . Either u are stupid or u think pple around u are. And don’t try to live in a fool’s paradise… this behaviour is a part of you and it is showing just fine.
You may think am too simple, stupid, too old fashioned or even downright dumb…. I DON’T CARE! Its better to be a blonde than a super bitch! Atleast I am being myself with everyone unlike you. I really wonder how you face yourself... is there even an ounce self respect left in u ???

You know what!… just go and stay in your stupid ‘losers club’… sort of suits you. No… I don’t hate you …. I just pity you.