Finally got time to meet a couple of my friends for lunch. Had a lot to catch up. The conversation went on and on and the flow of it sort of kept changing directions. It went from college to hair-do to changing lifestyles to behavioural changes in the society... the do and the donts.... etc Had huge discussions on "Given a choice....where would u wanna settle...India or abroad?", "Marriage -the end or the beginning of life... is it even necessary?"," Are women in India given enough opportunity to grow ... most importantly do they even have any scope to grow? "
She said: "I dont wanna get married... i dont believe in marriage.I dont wanna have kids and have a routine life. I love my freedom. I wanna work, learn and earn as much as possible, be able to do watever i want to without being questioned....I wanna live my life fully. Thats why I wanna live in the US and not in India."
Thats when i thought cant she fulfill all this being in India? why not?
Well, she can ...provided she is strong enough to defend her actions for she surely will be questioned for every move she makes and would be surely accused of being "too modern". We live in a society where everyone thinks its their birthright to peep into others lives, where 'mind your own business' is sill an alien concept, where the dos and donts gyaan comes from the neighbour's house (can be replaced by any of the relatives, friend's parents... their neighbours...its India...its possible) .
I have been having evening lectures (MBA) and my parents had a difficult time explaining pple that there are colls open till late evening. B'cos of this some think am acting pricey, some think am avoiding them, some think i have an affair blah blah.
Initially it used to irritate me but lately have have been in the ''I Dont Care" situation. I do not take efforts to convince pple...why cos am tired and I dont feel it is necessary to go abt shouting on the rooftops.
And as sum1 rightly said:
"Dont explain urself to anyone-
If they like you...they dont need it
If they dont...they wont believe it"
Bottom line:It would be anybody's dream to live life fully, do anything they want without being judged. Atleast i know its mine.
